How to build self confidence – There is no exact science on self confidence and how you can build it but there are some general areas that we can all work in to help ourselves respect our inner selfs a lot more and grow in confidence.
How to build self confidence
Much of the reason people feel lack of self confidence is because the world around us feels so much more than we are. People at work seem more equipped to do their jobs, they seem more handsome or pretty, better at communicating. Everything feels imposing and you feel like recessing back into a corner where no one can see you! The problem is this is in your head and measuring yourself by others and what they can do is the ultimate step to condeming yourself to a life of no self confidence.
Not everyone is as they seem – First off, feeling someone is better than you at anything is often a mixture of you believing it and them purveying it. I’m not saying you or them are necessarily the better one but the point is it doesn’t matter and it may not even be true. There is perception in everything. Not everyone is as good or confident as they make out.
You will always fall short if you measure against – You should only be measuring yourself against yourself, no matter what the world says. Don’t try and be like anyone else because you are your own person. The minute you believe and follow this is the minute you will feel better about yourself. So what if that person attracts all those friends, they are their friends and you need to focus on your own.
Take a look at who you surround yourself with – If people around you put you down, are always in competition with you or push you from trying new things then they may well lack confidence too or just be plain mean. Ween yourself away from them or discuss at length what their influence is doing to you. You may find a better friend in them or you may have to push them out of your life.
Do things you always wanted to – Always wanted to do life drawing classes? Just go do them, who cares what people think. Every new experience, especially if it’s something you always wanted to try will grow your self worth, your friend base and your experience.
Seek help if you may be depressed – If nothing works to life you when you are down then you could be clinically depressed. The general definition most people go by may be wrong and it’s not that you are suicidal or always upset for you to have to be depressed. General lack of feeling or want to do anything may be signs or even just odd days or real down feelings and lack of confidence for anything. On a good day haul yourself to a docs and they may recommend therapy.
Address past issues – You could be hung up on something that happened in the past. Those things need addressing and filing away in your head. Not shutting out, real addressing of the issues. I know this may be hard and every issue is different so there is no definite how to but it is something to really think about.
Be yourself – Even if you are outwardly successful and people think you are confident you may be an internal wreck. It’s possible you are faking a person and are scared to be yourself. Well that needs to change, it can be gradual but real friends will support you so be vocal to the people who care. Just change as you feel comfortable but have a goal in mind.
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